> For the record, I'm not pissed off with him anymore.
And therein lies the difference. For better or worse there are some people in the world who become emotional, angry and pissed off at people very quickly. They can, under certain circumstances, lash out at people in ways that can be viewed as unpleasent by the more laid-back people around. The flip side of this is that once they have their PoV out in the open they calm down again and consider the matter finished. Other people are mostly calm and deal with things in a more rational and considered manner. The flip side of *that* is that by the time they've actually become angry with someone over something it can be a long time before they can let it go and let things return to normal. Sadly with you and Andy it looks like you've come a cropper of what happens when these two kinds of people have a disagreement.
Now, this is not my arguement (not that that's ever stopped me sticking my oar in where it's not wanted) but it seems to me that the pair of you could at least me amicable with each other if you could come to an understanding that he could, in time, calm down over things past provided that, in future, you could change the way you deal with conflict with certain people (less agressive, personal & public).
Two more points before I finish. First of all please don't lump all of the 7th Sea people in together. Just because Andy doesn't want you around in the game doesn't mean that the rest of us never want to see you again - that's a hell of a jump. Secondly please don't assume that this decision was Andy's alone. As in all things related to gaming the GM may run the game but everything that happens surrounding it happens by consensus - I was happy for you to stay for example.
I have a DVD that I burned for you and your Andy a while back - I can drop it off at some point if you like. Have you watched the last one yet - if so what did you think?
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Date: 2005-08-05 12:33 pm (UTC)And therein lies the difference. For better or worse there are some people in the world who become emotional, angry and pissed off at people very quickly. They can, under certain circumstances, lash out at people in ways that can be viewed as unpleasent by the more laid-back people around. The flip side of this is that once they have their PoV out in the open they calm down again and consider the matter finished. Other people are mostly calm and deal with things in a more rational and considered manner. The flip side of *that* is that by the time they've actually become angry with someone over something it can be a long time before they can let it go and let things return to normal. Sadly with you and Andy it looks like you've come a cropper of what happens when these two kinds of people have a disagreement.
Now, this is not my arguement (not that that's ever stopped me sticking my oar in where it's not wanted) but it seems to me that the pair of you could at least me amicable with each other if you could come to an understanding that he could, in time, calm down over things past provided that, in future, you could change the way you deal with conflict with certain people (less agressive, personal & public).
Two more points before I finish. First of all please don't lump all of the 7th Sea people in together. Just because Andy doesn't want you around in the game doesn't mean that the rest of us never want to see you again - that's a hell of a jump. Secondly please don't assume that this decision was Andy's alone. As in all things related to gaming the GM may run the game but everything that happens surrounding it happens by consensus - I was happy for you to stay for example.
I have a DVD that I burned for you and your Andy a while back - I can drop it off at some point if you like. Have you watched the last one yet - if so what did you think?